Yesenia,
We don't have many dog walkers in our neighborhood, but the male who had a dog on our block as a larger black dog (not sure of the type). I often laugh when I muscular men walking down the street with a miniature dog or "yip yippers" as my wife refers to. If I were to buy one it would be something that would be good for my two boys, but one that could also protect our house (or at least sound like it could.. .
Friday, June 25, 2010
Blog Response to Linny
Linny,
I have never watched the Bachelor, but I have seen enough clips on tv to know that I think the entire premise of the show is ridiculous, especially the part about proposing marriage at the conclusion of the show - after what, 6 or 8 weeks of dating. Everyone is looking for love, but a reality show is the worst way to find it, especially a show like this! Dating is hard enough when you are in a monogamous relationship. With this show, you are competing with a bunch of other women, the majority who are looking to use the show to launch a career in tv.
I have never watched the Bachelor, but I have seen enough clips on tv to know that I think the entire premise of the show is ridiculous, especially the part about proposing marriage at the conclusion of the show - after what, 6 or 8 weeks of dating. Everyone is looking for love, but a reality show is the worst way to find it, especially a show like this! Dating is hard enough when you are in a monogamous relationship. With this show, you are competing with a bunch of other women, the majority who are looking to use the show to launch a career in tv.
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
I AM NOT DOMESTICATED!
I AM NOT DOMESTICATED!
This morning I left a bowl in the sink before leaving for work. Upon returning home, my wife voiced her displeasure about me, once again, not washing my dishes before leaving the house. I DO NOT WASH DISHES! I will mow the lawn (okay, I’ll have the landscaper cut it), I will water the grass, clean out the garage, or move furniture. However, since the dishes are in the kitchen and she is the one who does all of the cooking and grocery shopping, I feel that the dishes are her responsibility. I know this way of thinking is wrong and very sexist, but I refuse to wash dishes. Before my wife and I got married, I had to cook for myself, wash my own clothes, and yes, wash dishes. But since we got married, I have removed that item from my chore list and have left the honors to my wife, along with cleaning, vacuuming, dusting, laundry, ironing. I am trying to do better, but I have to admit, I have a loooooooong way to go!
This morning I left a bowl in the sink before leaving for work. Upon returning home, my wife voiced her displeasure about me, once again, not washing my dishes before leaving the house. I DO NOT WASH DISHES! I will mow the lawn (okay, I’ll have the landscaper cut it), I will water the grass, clean out the garage, or move furniture. However, since the dishes are in the kitchen and she is the one who does all of the cooking and grocery shopping, I feel that the dishes are her responsibility. I know this way of thinking is wrong and very sexist, but I refuse to wash dishes. Before my wife and I got married, I had to cook for myself, wash my own clothes, and yes, wash dishes. But since we got married, I have removed that item from my chore list and have left the honors to my wife, along with cleaning, vacuuming, dusting, laundry, ironing. I am trying to do better, but I have to admit, I have a loooooooong way to go!
Thursday, June 17, 2010
This is in response to Yesenia
This is in response to Yesenia
Maybe the older generation does not understand your lifestyle and your busy schedule. Unfortunately, not everyone has realized that times have changed and there are plenty of women in the workforce as well as striving for higher education. Some cultures put an emphasis on women learning how to cook at an early age instead of higher education. People also have a hard time accepting that women are just as capable of performing the same way as men do in many areas. I think your family has to understand what your passion is and that you are your own person when it comes to what is in the best interest of you. I wonder if you are part of a few or many women in your family to be attending school to put yourself in a better situation in the future. Society has dictated to us for years that a women’s place is in the kitchen and not in the classroom. I just hope for you that your family can understand what you are trying to accomplish for not only for yourself, but for them as well.
Maybe the older generation does not understand your lifestyle and your busy schedule. Unfortunately, not everyone has realized that times have changed and there are plenty of women in the workforce as well as striving for higher education. Some cultures put an emphasis on women learning how to cook at an early age instead of higher education. People also have a hard time accepting that women are just as capable of performing the same way as men do in many areas. I think your family has to understand what your passion is and that you are your own person when it comes to what is in the best interest of you. I wonder if you are part of a few or many women in your family to be attending school to put yourself in a better situation in the future. Society has dictated to us for years that a women’s place is in the kitchen and not in the classroom. I just hope for you that your family can understand what you are trying to accomplish for not only for yourself, but for them as well.
This is response to Linny
This is response to Linny
I to have my own “man” cave. It gives me a sense of ownership and allows me to get away from everything else. When my wife and I were looking for our home two years ago, I pretty much said the same thing to her however; I threw in the garage as another room that I wanted to have and decorate the way I wanted to which she had no objections. Of course, these are the only two rooms in the house that men can decorate any which way and not mess it up (LOL). I think your fiancé would not have a problem decorating the whole house if you allowed him to have the basement and design it the way he wanted (be careful of letting him decorate the rest of the house). As men, we feel the need to have something (basement) to call our own regardless of whom lives in the house. By having a room like the basement, gives a sense of entitlement and allows us to make certain decisions without any interference. Maybe there could be an even trade off somewhere, you might be able to get a couple of home cooked meals each week (it might be a good trade)…. Who knows!
I to have my own “man” cave. It gives me a sense of ownership and allows me to get away from everything else. When my wife and I were looking for our home two years ago, I pretty much said the same thing to her however; I threw in the garage as another room that I wanted to have and decorate the way I wanted to which she had no objections. Of course, these are the only two rooms in the house that men can decorate any which way and not mess it up (LOL). I think your fiancé would not have a problem decorating the whole house if you allowed him to have the basement and design it the way he wanted (be careful of letting him decorate the rest of the house). As men, we feel the need to have something (basement) to call our own regardless of whom lives in the house. By having a room like the basement, gives a sense of entitlement and allows us to make certain decisions without any interference. Maybe there could be an even trade off somewhere, you might be able to get a couple of home cooked meals each week (it might be a good trade)…. Who knows!
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Home Depot
This past weekend I went to Home Depot to get supplies to update my garage. It was interesting to see all of the females in Home Depot! To me, Home Depot = men because of home improvement. However, there were quite a few couples in the store shopping together. Rarely do you see a large number of couples shopping together in Home Depot. My assumption is that when home improvement needs to be done, the wife or woman of the house will fall in line with what the man wants to do. Am I sometimes caught up in traditional gender roles, absolutely, and this is something that I will continue to work on and try to change I never go to Home Depot with my wife, because she wants to browse. I like to make a list and get what is needed and come back. I always assume Home Depot duties, and I don’t foresee this changing anytime soon. However, maybe one day I will ask her to ride shotgun with me. I hope that when I bring her, she will bring some good ideas and we will be able to agree on something together. Is it selfish for me to go without her, absolutely but I get alot acomplish...
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Response to Sara
Hello Sara,
Children at a young age, are understanding gender - from what their parents teach them to how their siblings behave. Therefore, that could explain how the young boy understands the difference between the woman's restroom and the mens room. Maybe the boy already knew the difference because the mother said something and he took the opportunity to correct his mother. Often times mom's will take their sons into the ladies room because they do not want to sacrifice their safety by sending them into a men's restroom without male supervision. Maybe the young boy witnessed someone speaking to his mom in this manner, but at least he was able to express his feelings in an adamate way.
Children at a young age, are understanding gender - from what their parents teach them to how their siblings behave. Therefore, that could explain how the young boy understands the difference between the woman's restroom and the mens room. Maybe the boy already knew the difference because the mother said something and he took the opportunity to correct his mother. Often times mom's will take their sons into the ladies room because they do not want to sacrifice their safety by sending them into a men's restroom without male supervision. Maybe the young boy witnessed someone speaking to his mom in this manner, but at least he was able to express his feelings in an adamate way.
Response to Jackie
Jackie,
I think it is admirable that you can admit your shortcomings. I too, also have a difficult time expressing my feelings to my wife. I tend to hide my emotions as I want to be the strong person in the relationship. However, I have learned through the years and in other relationships with women that it is better to express your feelings. Hopefully I am learning to express myself better and hopefully my children can see that I can do so as well so they feel like they can come to me and openly express their feelings to me and in their friendships with the opposite sex. Yes, maybe I do need to buy flowers more often......
June 10, 2010 11:02 PM
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I think it is admirable that you can admit your shortcomings. I too, also have a difficult time expressing my feelings to my wife. I tend to hide my emotions as I want to be the strong person in the relationship. However, I have learned through the years and in other relationships with women that it is better to express your feelings. Hopefully I am learning to express myself better and hopefully my children can see that I can do so as well so they feel like they can come to me and openly express their feelings to me and in their friendships with the opposite sex. Yes, maybe I do need to buy flowers more often......
June 10, 2010 11:02 PM
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Wednesday, June 9, 2010
WHERE ARE THE PARENTS???!!!
Today, I chaperoned my oldest son's 5th grade class trip to the Franklin Institute in Philadelphia. BOY...I was surprised with what I saw. 11 year-old girls were dressed like grown women with skin tight jeans on, knee high Chuck Taylor sneakers, exposed bellies, with a face full of make-up. Instead of giggling and doing the things that girls used to do when I was 11, they were strutting around like they were in a music video, texting on their cell phones and singing the lyrics to songs that are inappropriate for 5th graders. If this is what these young girls look like at 11, I am fearful of how they will dress and act once they teenagers. It's obvious they are getting their fashion tips from tv shows and music videos, however, parents need to be parents stop allowing their children to grow up according to what they see on tv. I can recall picture day as a child when myself and my classmates would wear their Sunday attire so they looked good for their class pictures. 11 year-old girls looked and acted like 11 year-old girls. From today's trip, I can see why society view women as sexual objects and why women are still fighting to be treated with respect.
I have also wondered why parents allow their children to go on Facebook as Facebook is not for children!!!!!
I have also wondered why parents allow their children to go on Facebook as Facebook is not for children!!!!!
Thursday, June 3, 2010
This is in respone to Tara
Many men are taught at an early age that crying is a sign of weakness. It is something that has been embedded in my head and it is something that I am constantly stressing to my 2 year old son. I don't want my children to become so overcome with emotion that they are unable to perform or do something. If you are able to supress your emotions, you stand a better chance navigating challenging situations. I must admit that I am trying to stray away from some of the teachings of my own father and trying to stay away from some of the typical gender sterotyping and teachings.
Many men are taught at an early age that crying is a sign of weakness. It is something that has been embedded in my head and it is something that I am constantly stressing to my 2 year old son. I don't want my children to become so overcome with emotion that they are unable to perform or do something. If you are able to supress your emotions, you stand a better chance navigating challenging situations. I must admit that I am trying to stray away from some of the teachings of my own father and trying to stay away from some of the typical gender sterotyping and teachings.
This is in response to Jeff
It is tradition in my household as well that the females cooked and the men ate the food. All joking aside, in my early 20's I began to help out regularly with pre-meal preparations, which could consist of going to the grocery store, setting the table, etc. Now, I am "Mr. Turkey Fryer" for my family. Each Thanksgiving, I fry one turkey for my family and will fry additional turkeys for members of my family, but I do not step foot in the kitchen to prepare any type of side dish on the stove. This year, we hosted Thanksgiving for my entire family (25 people) this year and I assisted my wife with the pre-dinner preparations and the post dinner clean-up. Not sure how soon "we" will tackle that feat again, but I can tell you "we" were exhausted afterwards! :-)
It is tradition in my household as well that the females cooked and the men ate the food. All joking aside, in my early 20's I began to help out regularly with pre-meal preparations, which could consist of going to the grocery store, setting the table, etc. Now, I am "Mr. Turkey Fryer" for my family. Each Thanksgiving, I fry one turkey for my family and will fry additional turkeys for members of my family, but I do not step foot in the kitchen to prepare any type of side dish on the stove. This year, we hosted Thanksgiving for my entire family (25 people) this year and I assisted my wife with the pre-dinner preparations and the post dinner clean-up. Not sure how soon "we" will tackle that feat again, but I can tell you "we" were exhausted afterwards! :-)
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
Mr. Barbecue
Mr. Barbecue
Several weeks ago, I received a “Mr. Barbecue” as a gift in anticipation for the Memorial Day weekend. Everyone in my family knows that I enjoy cooking on the grill and that I would appreciate the gift. When I looked at the box that the set came in, the package read “Mr. Barbecue” set. I actually chuckled because why is cooking in the kitchen considered “woman’s work” however, cooking on the grill is masculine and acceptable for men to do. I guess it is okay for a men to cook outside, but not cook inside, but why? Or better yet, why is the set called the “Mr. Barbecue” instead of the “Ms. Barbecue” set? It’s definitely something that makes you say, “Hmmmm?”
Several weeks ago, I received a “Mr. Barbecue” as a gift in anticipation for the Memorial Day weekend. Everyone in my family knows that I enjoy cooking on the grill and that I would appreciate the gift. When I looked at the box that the set came in, the package read “Mr. Barbecue” set. I actually chuckled because why is cooking in the kitchen considered “woman’s work” however, cooking on the grill is masculine and acceptable for men to do. I guess it is okay for a men to cook outside, but not cook inside, but why? Or better yet, why is the set called the “Mr. Barbecue” instead of the “Ms. Barbecue” set? It’s definitely something that makes you say, “Hmmmm?”
Friday, May 21, 2010
I came home from work late yesterday and I saw my 2 1/2 year old sitting on the couch watching the animated movie Cars. He sat there watching this movie without saying a word. When the movie was over, he wanted to play with his cars. Just watching him play with his became interesting because he was playing with the cars and making the sound effects the same way he heard in the movie including how the male cars sounded compared to the female cars. Not even thinking about it, he changed the pitch of his voice when making the sound effects of the different cars. he played like this for about fifteen minuets until he heard Dora the Explorer came on. It seems like he has no problem going from toys to cartoons picking up things from each one and learning to associate things such as color. For such a young age my son already has a personal preference of colors from just by teaching him his colors. One thing is for sure, he likes both male and female cartoon characters even if they speak in two languages . I'm sure he is unaware that Dora speaks in two languages however, I think he's more focused on the color and features of each of the characters.
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